Hope B 
Member since Aug 23, 2017


Artist, former and retired cfp. From the San Juan Islands of WA State. Lived in AK, OR, HI, WA. Well traveled. Now happily settled in… More »


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Re: “Moore and #MeToo

I'm glad the movement has you thinking. Many men don't understand that women must be hyper-vigilant in their everyday lives. Men don't usually look all around them when they get in and out of their cars, especially in parking garages. We must constantly be aware of where we are, is there a man around us that could attack. Many men don't realize when they cat call and whistle at women it can spark terror in a lot of us. Will we be followed, will a gang of them, riding in those cars that called out to us, out of their window circle, around and grab us? Will my boss or co-worker, who can't seem to take his eyes off my breasts as I speak to him, or catch his eyes periodically dropping down, go further. I understand that men do not control their natural hunting, with their eyes reflexes, but the awareness of protecting ourselves still happens to us. Does being made a fool by Mr. Franken, for the world to see mean I'm not a team player if I see it as another straw added to the pile of 'can't you take a joke (at your expense)' mentality? Yes, where do we draw the line? WOMEN have lost our jobs for ages for not putting out or letting the hand rest on our ass for whatever reason our male co-workers determine is OK if we dared speak up. Yes, maybe men have to BE more careful now, rather than placing it all on the bodies of the woman who had to save their jobs in the past. This will simmer down eventually, but for now, woman are finally feeling safer to speak up as long as they know they finally have other people along with them. Our president (ugh) is a master at blaming the victims and denying he is guilty. The times I have had to confront men, in the past, for sexually abusing or molesting or harassing me, have denied It TO MY FACE, even when I pointed out the behavior on the spot. Ha ha ha, "Can't you take a joke?" Not when I speak up, that is WHY I am speaking up... I did this before women came forward and it got me nowhere. Now that voices are joined together, men are starting to HEAR what we are saying. It is always better to error on the side of 'business dignity' when a handshake will do the trick. We will not be offended. If we hug YOU it is a sign, for that one moment, that we see you as being slightly closer than business dictates. I am not comfortable with hugging some women- not because it has a sexual connotation, but in a business setting it is not acceptable. If you have questions- talk to your female friends about it. As you know, we generally LOVE to talk. If a woman tells you she doesn't feel comfortable with a hug, drop it, it may have NOTHING to do with you but in something about what has happened to her to make her feel this way. We all need to be gentle with each other, try to talk things out, create an atmosphere that someone can tell us they don't feel comfortable with something we may be doing. Please forgive my errors in grammar and composition- I just got out of the hospital and not doing so well- just wanted to put my two cents into the pot.

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Posted by Hope Budinich on 12/14/2017 at 5:24 PM

Re: “Harassment on the city trails

I am a dog lover/dog owner. I OBEY off leash laws- many don't. You don't let your dog off leash so they can 'Go to the bathroom'. They are 100% capable of doing their business on leash. You should have been ticketed. You were LUCKY. Do you know how much that ticket would have cost you if they issued one? KEEP YOUR DOGS ON LEASH 100% OF THE TIME IN POSTED 'ON LEASH' AREAS. We all need to obey the on and off leash laws, not just a special few who think someone is rude for confronting them about an off leash dog. If they start giving tickets every time will you finally concede?

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Posted by Hope Budinich on 12/14/2017 at 4:51 PM

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